Creating a ‘Fuck Budget’ for 2017

If you haven’t yet read the book, ‘The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck’, I strongly urge you to order yourself a copy sharpish. Author Sarah Knight writes about the ‘Not Sorry Method’ of giving less fucks. In short, getting rid of the things in life we give a fuck about but shouldn’t, for example – what people think and colleagues’ charity pursuits.

She inspires us to create a ‘Fuck Budget’ where you list all of the things at work and with friends and family that we give a fuck about and decide whether we should give a fuck about them or if we shouldn’t.

Knight insists ‘fucks’ should be divided into, ‘things’, ‘work’, ‘friends’ and ‘family’ and tackled in that order. There is space in the book to list all of the things you give a fuck about but shouldn’t and then next to it, space to write all of the things you’re going to give a fuck about instead. Things you SHOULD give a fuck about.

I devoured this book in about an hour on Christmas Day and it instantly gave me a new lease of life. Suddenly things that had been bogging me down over the festive period seemed inconsequential – I gave less fucks. Then I decided I wasn’t going to deface the book by writing up my fuck budget but instead I’d share it with you all here. So here we go, a list of things I normally give a fuck about but am going to stop giving fucks to, coupled with a list of things I’m going to give more fucks to.

THINGS

Less Fucks: Followers – My blog has grown well this year and rather stress about OMFG why haven’t I got at least 100k on all platforms already, I’m going to stop caring as much as I physically can.

More Fucks: Interaction – I want to be better at commenting on blogs and other people’s social media.

Less Fucks: Saving – I always worry that I never have any money to fall back on and there’s a constant anxiety towards my frivolousness which inevitably stresses me out.

More Fucks: Spending better – I am known to wank Β£200 a month away on Ubers and takeaways and suffer the guilt afterwards. In 2017 I want to feel less guilty but also be a tad more wiser with my money and focus it on important areas like travelling, experiences and highlighter palettes.

Less Fucks: FOMO – I suffer quite badly with the devil of comparison when I see other people out and about doing all the things I wish I could do. It can make me feel bad about my life and why I’ve not got the same opportunities.

More Fucks: MMTNMO – Oh yeeeah, you can see that catching on can’t you? Making Moments To Not Miss Out is the order of 2017. Who gives a fuck what other people are doing if I’m making sure that I’m happy in my own moments?

WORK

Less Fucks: Time off – As a teacher you are guilt tripped within an inch of your life if you take a day off. The kids go hay wire, the parents are annoyed and every other member of staff is silently judging over whether you were really ill or not. I felt such guilt this year that I tried to go back to work 2 days after my Mum died and found myself trudging in every morning that I felt I might die from flu, SAD or menstrual cramps.

More Fucks: Me Time – Life is so much more than work. So many opportunities for replenishment and exploration are missed out on because of work. Yes, you need to work to live but you should never live to work. In 2017, if I need a day here or there for my own sanity or to do something that makes me truly happy, I’m going to do it completely guilt free.

Less Fucks: Paperwork – Any one who knows me, already knows how crap I am at anything teaching related other than actually doing the teaching. I spent most of 2016 boiling over all of the pointless tasks we were given and found my evenings were being spent stewing Β over my mountain of things that don’t directly relate to the quality of education I deliver.

More Fucks: Teaching – Unless something is going to directly benefit the children in my class, I’m just not going to do it. What’s the worst that can happen? They can’t fire me if it doesn’t come under my terms and conditions so JUST TRY ME.

FRIENDS

Less Fucks: Social breadcrumbing – How much of 2016 have you spent sending the odd catch up text or comment to people you have absolutely no intention of seeing and give so little fucks about? I cleansed my Whatsapp of all conversation threads with people I will never make the effort to see again. Including every boy I have dated or was supposed to date who thinks it’s acceptable to message me with no intention of dating me again.

More Fucks: Reaching out – Sometimes I get so bogged down with giving fucks to people that don’t give fucks about me, that I forget to reach out to the people who do give fucks. Therefore 2017 is going to see me getting better at reaching out to friends who mean something to me and who might need checking in on more than I take for granted.

Less Fucks: Fuckboys – My standards for 2017 are upping ten fold. Can’t text me back in a timely manner? Bye. Don’t make an effort to arrange a great date? Bye. 2016 saw me spend a lot of energy on guys that ultimately just weren’t worth it.

More Fucks: Self love – Rather than waiting around for that boy to text me back or timetable my shaving and exfoliating routine on whether I have a date that week, 2017 is going to see me practising a lot more self love. Pamper nights, spa treatments, waxes and furious masturbation.

FAMILY

Less Fucks: Dickhead relatives – My first Christmas without my Mum was brilliant, thanks for asking.

More Fucks: Lovely relatives – The ones you ignore messages from and take for granted when all they’re trying to be is nice and caring. Well in 2017, I’m going to be equally as caring and make sure I check in with them more often.

Less Fucks: My Sister’s Dickhead boyfriend – I know she’ll read this and get totally pissed off at me but this year I have been quite mentally drained by my sister’s choice of partner. He has done some truly awful and horrible things to her, yet she stays and puts up with it. We’ve gotten into so many rows because I’ve tried to make her see sense and ultimately, I’m the one left feeling sad and frustrated.

More Fucks: Keeping my opinions to myself – because the messenger always gets shot.

So there we go! My Fuck Budget for 2017 is quite a tight one and I’m sure I’ll have to add other things to it to ensure I have a less fuck giving year.

I urge you all to read the book and create your own fuck budgets and when you’ve done that – share them with me!

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40 Comments

  1. December 28, 2016 / 10:05 am

    This might just be my favourite Vix Meldrew post to date! Genuinely lol’d. I think this is such a good idea. I definitely need to learn to say no more in 2017, a bit like the social breadcrumbing – I’ve wasted energy on seeing arseholes who aren’t really my friends and I don’t really like because I didn’t want to hurt their feelings. Also, giving more fucks about saving money and losing weight πŸ™‚ xx

  2. December 28, 2016 / 10:29 am

    I think I’m gonna have to pick up a copy of this for myself, it sounds as if it’s given you a major kick up the arse!

  3. December 28, 2016 / 10:32 am

    I LOVE the idea of this Vix – life is seriously too short and the world is out there for all of us!

  4. Waxed Bat
    December 28, 2016 / 10:43 am

    This post has given me the kick up the arse to order this book before I have some sort of melt down πŸ˜† Will get back to you with my fuck budget.

  5. December 28, 2016 / 10:57 am

    Heheheh love the format and totally agree that it’s necessary to let some people go….
    Happy 2017 to you!
    xx finja | http://www.effcaa.com

  6. December 28, 2016 / 11:06 am

    This post is f*cking brilliant – I think I need to create one for myself! xx

    Sam // What I Know Now

  7. December 28, 2016 / 11:14 am

    I loved this- I saw this book in a shop months ago and meant to pick it up. This definitely looks like the kind of budget I can do. I wasted so much time invested in people who didn’t think twice about turning on me or making life unnecessarily difficult.

    (Also I can’t even imagine how sucky it must be to spend your first Christmas without your mum especially when some family aren’t interested but for what it’s worth you handle everything amazingly)

  8. December 28, 2016 / 11:46 am

    I heart this post. I need this book. I feel inspired to write my own fuck budget now πŸ™‚

  9. December 28, 2016 / 12:40 pm

    This is epic! I am most certainly picking up a copy of this book, there are far too many things I give undeserving fucks to in my opinion. I shall rid myself of these fucks with immediate effect!

  10. December 28, 2016 / 12:40 pm

    This is epic! I am most certainly picking up a copy of this book, there are far too many things I give undeserving fucks to in my opinion. I shall rid myself of these fucks with immediate effect!

  11. December 28, 2016 / 1:31 pm

    This is great Vix! I’m going to write my own list for 2017 too and defo pick up the book. All the best for 2017 X

  12. December 28, 2016 / 1:32 pm

    Such a great and fun post! I really have to read that book too!
    x Caroline

  13. December 28, 2016 / 1:39 pm

    Brilliance, my love. And yay for standing up to useless admin!

  14. December 28, 2016 / 1:41 pm

    Thank you I really loved this post!

    We’ve got to get serious about how we use our time and life!

  15. December 28, 2016 / 2:02 pm

    Yes girl! I love this and will create my own ‘Fuck budget’ ! x

  16. December 28, 2016 / 3:14 pm

    This is absolutely brilliant and something I completely need to do! I’ve always worried about the stupid insignificant things that really it’s worth two shits so I feel completely inspired now!

    Also I do hope you had a sort of nice Christmas, the first one without your parent is always the worst and one I found out last year. x

  17. December 28, 2016 / 3:17 pm

    I *need* to write my own fuck budget, right now, this instant! I related to so much that you wrote, here’s to a 2017 of giving less fucks and really focusing on what matters!

  18. December 28, 2016 / 3:22 pm

    What a bloody great idea! Such a refreshing read. I’m going to get on this PRONTO!

    Cheers beaut x

  19. December 29, 2016 / 9:26 am

    Love this post and am definitely getting the book! I agree with your work fucks, I’m a first year teacher and it’s killing me all the extra stuff! Need to take a leaf from your book!

    • Sophia
      December 29, 2016 / 6:15 pm

      Don’t worry, it gets easier it really does! πŸ™‚ what are you teaching? Xxx

  20. December 29, 2016 / 12:32 pm

    What a beautiful post, thank you for the insight lovely :p xx

  21. Sophia
    December 29, 2016 / 6:15 pm

    Oh my god so true about teachers and time off. I feel awful being off because the kids go mental as you say and there’s always so much to catch up on- but this year I’ve finally decided that I am no good to anyone if I’m ill and I don’t give a shit (or a fuck which seems more fitting here!) what anyone says if I need time i need time!

    Love this whole post and your blog in general!

    Sophia πŸ™‚ xxxxx

  22. December 29, 2016 / 7:40 pm

    I definitely need to do something like this. I like to think I’m a laid back person but I can worry and whittle about the smallest of things when really, I shouldn’t give a fuck. You’ve inspired me lady and I hope 2017 brings you so many wonderful memories and experiences!

  23. December 30, 2016 / 10:34 am

    I bought the book a few weeks ago and still haven’t had to chance to read it but I actually think that tonight is the perfect timing to dive into it, what an awesome way to end this year! Loved this post so much πŸ™‚

    xx, Matea

  24. December 30, 2016 / 3:02 pm

    This is brilliant! That is definitely a book I’m going to have to purchase and read. What an excellent post! Thanks for sharing this with us πŸ™‚

  25. December 30, 2016 / 7:13 pm

    2017: The Year of Fucks. Less fucks given to things that don’t matter. More fucks for the things that do. Amen!

  26. December 31, 2016 / 11:34 am

    This is absolutely brilliant. I need to buy this book and create my own little Fuck Budget!! Here’s to not giving a flying fuck in 2017 ey!!??

  27. January 1, 2017 / 12:30 pm

    Absolutely love this!! Like so much!!
    Totally with you on the social breadcrumbing. I’ve tried so hard to keep people in my life since I became a mother, but they can’t see that I’m still basically the same person just with a tiny human to care for! So fuck em!!!

  28. January 1, 2017 / 4:39 pm

    Greetings! Very useful advice within this post!
    It is the little changes that will make the largest changes.
    Thanks a lot for sharing!

  29. January 1, 2017 / 6:50 pm

    Fab post and what a great idea! I think you’ve made excellent choices!

  30. Abi
    January 1, 2017 / 8:11 pm

    I need to get my hands on this book! It is definitely something I need in my life, and a way to really open my eyes. This post is great and is such a good way to put into focus of what is and isn’t needed in life!

    I absolutely love how brutally honest you are, it is completely refreshing

    Abi | abistreetx

  31. January 2, 2017 / 3:25 am

    Was on the edge about this book but now I’m going to snag it! I need to come up with a fuck budget and I have a feeling it’ll look a lot like yours.

  32. January 2, 2017 / 11:01 am

    I love this book so much. I genuinely do think it has changed my life or at least how I look at my life and how I prioritise the things I spend my energy on

    – Natalie
    http://www.workovereasy.com

  33. January 9, 2017 / 5:32 pm

    I’ve seen this book everywhere and might have to pick it up now! I really focused on prioritising the things I actually want to and should care about about halfway through last year after mental health getting the better of me and it’s been bloody brilliant.

    Dannielle
    whileimyoung.com

  34. laura
    January 14, 2017 / 2:36 pm

    I meant to get this the other day and was torn between this and her new one because I totally need to learn how to give less fucks and also get shit done! hahaha! LOVED this post!

  35. January 18, 2017 / 9:46 pm

    LOVE this list! I keep seeing this book pop up everywhere! It is like the new Hygge book! Might just have to take a look. My dad died on the 26th December so I think it is the perfect time to give less fucks about what other people think of me.

    Great post Vix xx

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