Little Mix’s new song is an absolute banger, am I right? I slightly preferred it when I thought the lyrics we, ‘Shoutout to my ex, he was really crap in bed,’ but now I know the lyrics are ‘you were really quite the man. You made my heart break and that made me who I am,’ I’m even happier because YES. Heartbreak DOES make you a better person.
Without my ex becoming my ex I’d never have found my way to beautiful Streatham.
So here’s a Shoutout to my Ex. It’s been exactly a year since I found the ‘just texts’ on his phone and decided that the relationship, which was an utter shambles, just wasn’t worth trying to save.
I won’t slander my ex because when my Mum passed away, he actually provided me a lot of support. Unfortunately we’ve made up and fallen out many times since but that’s what happens when a lot of water passes under a bridge.
But my Shoutout of thanks still stands. The ending of my relationship taught me a lot of things. It taught me NEVER to accept anything less than 100% loyalty. It taught me never to accept anyone treating me any less than I deserved. It taught me that having a comfortable future means jackshit if your every day is uncomfortable. It taught me that relationships aren’t the be all and end all of happiness. It taught me that I am my number 1 priority and I should never put anyone else’s happiness above my own. For all of those things, and more, I am thankful.
I wish that everyone out there in an unhappy relationship, who feels stuck because they are more scared of being alone than they are of being perpetually unhappy, could see what it’s like to come out the other side.
I wish that they could hear those lyrics, ‘Even though you broke my heart in two, but I snapped right back and I’m so brand new,’ and realise that breaking up ISN’T all that hard to do.
If you’re in a dead end relationship OR you’ve just come out the other side. Give yourself the opportunity for a Shoutout to your Ex and live a happier single life.