How We Can Get The Bloggersphere Back

Something feels iffy in the Bloggersphere at the moment doesn’t it? I can’t quite put my finger on it but there seems to be an air of rivalry, jealousy, cattiness and weirdness that is seeping out through 140 characters and just down-right irritating those of us who love to GIF-off or read a decent blog post once in a while. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not one of these people who wants everything to be hearts and flowers and believes we should all get along. I just want people to be less…annoying TBH.

My last 3 blog posts have resulted in someone ‘calling me out’ on Twitter to say I should have used different terminology or should have written the post for all genders and sexualities or that I’m unoriginal and I’ll be honest, it’s made me not want to post anything at all.

I’ve had so many ideas I’ve wanted to roll with but when I feel like people are just going to pick it apart, it’s made me not able to write. I’m fed up of this. This blog is all about honesty and realness and if people don’t like it, they need to stop reading. So here’s some honesty about what I believe people in the bloggersphere need to stop doing so that we can all carry on with what we love.

Stop writing blog posts like this. I get I’m weighing in on the very thing that annoys me but it’s my blog and I can write about whatever I want. Irony is not lost on me. You don’t need to point it out.

Stop being mean to each other. Save the drama for your Mama. Here’s a rule of thumb. If someone annoys you because of their beliefs, face or umpteenth unrelated sponsored post you can take 3 courses of action. And only these 3. Either DM them and talk about it in private. Ignore them. OR rant about it in your own head until you realise that it’s a bit pointless to be so concerned with online people’s lives and you get over it. Personal insults and ‘dragging’ each other only makes you look bad. You’re not reading someone on Ru Paul hunty.

Stop following people you don’t like. I love a good social media cleanse. Didn’t read my blog post properly and decided to pull me up on something? You get an unfollow and a block. Constantly starting arguments? Block. Bragging about a free lipstick? Block. Accept a sponsored post for milk? Block. I don’t have the energy to fill my brain with shit I don’t like. And please, if you don’t like something I do or say, please feel free to unfollow or block me as opposed to telling me what you don’t like. I don’t care.

Stop trying to make a name for yourself. I know that you had a few tweets that went viral because you slated someone or something and lots of people seemed to agree with you. Don’t then make every tweet about slating someone or something in the vain hope of it gaining you further popularity. No one likes people that are constantly piping up just for the sake of it. This is not the same as people who genuinely call out shady behaviour where the rest of us turn a blind eye BUT pick your battles and stop throwing your hat into the ring of everyone else’s fights.

Stop bragging. Now don’t get me wrong, I am alllll ‘YASSS GIRL’ when someone lands a great campaign or has a post that goes viral. What I’m not here for are the people who tweet about ‘exciting emails’ every 5 seconds which then don’t turn out to be anything. I know it’s a rat race in blogging and everyone wants to be seen as the most in demand but this behaviour is so transparent. Just holler at us with a post full of banging content when your ‘exciting email’ comes through and we’ll all be sharing it like crazy.

Stop begging. For follows. For likes. For votes. For people to agree with you. Yes, share and ask people to share but sliding into DMs to persuade people to do something for you, for absolutely nothing in return makes me grind my teeth.

Stop being pedantic. I’ve seen a lot lately, especially on Twitter, that people are tweeting seconds after someone has said or posted something to pick it apart without digesting it properly. Whether someone has made a typo or they’ve used a term someone doesn’t agree with. It’s like a pack of sad wolves. If this is you, refer back to point 2.

Stop reading. The best thing about being an adult is that I am in full control of my own brain and actions. If I see a tweet or a post that is offensive, boring or rubbish I will stop reading it. You all have this option too! You don’t have to comment, pick apart or start shit. Just turn off. It’s only the internet.

Stop being shady. Everyone’s bored of the bot situation yet people are still using them and getting away with it. Lots of reputations have been tarnished and I’ve certainly lost a lot of respect for people I once liked. You choose to conduct yourself and your blog in any way you see fit, but if I think you’re shady, you just won’t get my support.

There’s a whole host of things we could all stop doing to make the bloggersphere a better place. But maybe there’s a few things we should start doing. Like, sharing each other’s content when it’s great, complimenting someone when they are doing an amazing job, compare ourselves in a positive way and lastly, continue growing our presences through organic means and brilliant content.

Let’s reclaim the bloggersphere for everything we love about it.

Photography credit: Kaye

38 Comments

  1. May 20, 2017 / 10:09 am

    Hell yes to this post! I don’t want all sunshine and flowers either but there’s been a massive shift in the community recently and it makes me so scared to contribute at all let alone blog! Love that you’re calling it out in a mature and super articulate way! May we all do the same.

  2. May 20, 2017 / 10:16 am

    Amen, to every single bloody word! Room for everyone and if you don’t like others content, just ignore it, no one forcing you to read it. It’s easy! I’d much rather support others than waste my energy tearing them down! 🙂

  3. May 20, 2017 / 10:31 am

    Absolutely LOVE this post. For me blogging has always been about carving out my corner of the internet to say what I want and do what I want. Thanks for calling out the shady mean behaviour that exists.

  4. Ashleigh Dougherty
    May 20, 2017 / 10:40 am

    Completely agree with this post Vix. There always seems to be a Twitter argument where I am involved on the receiving end of things. Usually because I write about things that people don’t agree with or think is right to talk about. People seem to forget that my blog belongs to me?

  5. May 20, 2017 / 11:05 am

    Great post! I have been reading a lot about this sort of this too and seeing examples of it. Every week that goes by seems to bring about more extreme, more needy and more attention grabbing posts on every platform.

    I was reading another great post about a super famous Instagrammer calling out all of the hidden tactics and dark side of IG… and its sad but true.
    I am currently trying to build awareness of my interiors brand and its REALLY hard to promote without the constant self doubt of eek what are people going to think of my wording, my tone, my images, the fact I am even posting at all!

    As an online only brand, I don’t the tradition shop front for people to see explore and talk about, my work and development is predominately online, like SO many other businesses now! = Difficult Situation.

    Thanks for the great post!

  6. May 20, 2017 / 11:17 am

    Nailed it Vix!! I see so many things I don’t like or agree with. I just ignore it or unfollow. I don’t see the point in making someone’s day that little bit shitter by calling them out on something they thought was a banging tweet or post. MAybe that makes me a nob for not “standing up for people” but you know what? I’m 32, I’ve had enough of this at school.

  7. Abi Street
    May 20, 2017 / 11:20 am

    I love this post!! Everything you’ve said it so spot on x

    Abi | abistreetx

  8. Bella
    May 20, 2017 / 11:49 am

    THANK YOU VIX, THANK YOU!!
    As usual, great post. Rings true, rings home. I am bored dungless with all this PC bull that’s around lately. Since when did we have to pander to everyone else when giving opinions. Saw a tweet recently about John Lewis and someone blasting them for having boy/girl sections of greeting cards – my gawd they’re greetings card for heavens sake, GREETINGS CARDS for kids who probably will only end up scribling away on them and then the parents tossing them to the bin. Hey, I’m getting ranty now so will curb it back but it’s just so annoying! Bored with the whole fake follower/comments/engagement thing going on that if I start talking about that I really won’t be able to stop. Oh you know I just can’t take it anymore. Please, please, please can we go back to how social media was a couple years ago when all of this wasn’t even a speck of dust?!

  9. May 20, 2017 / 11:51 am

    Yaaasssssss … especiallynto the last point!! Throw fucking kindness round like confetti x

  10. May 20, 2017 / 12:02 pm

    Thank you SO much for posting this! A blogger friend and I have been noticing the same trends in the blogosphere, and it’s really encouraging to see people try to uplift the community and calling out the bullshit. Great post, I look forward to reading your other work! Much love, Dee

  11. May 20, 2017 / 3:03 pm

    You’re like Spartacus! Fucking standing up and saying it how it is. There is a reason why I follow your blog and continue to return to your blog and you’ve showcased that here. I personally am unaware of most blogging dramas as I seem to have been pushed outside of any group of blogging when I decided to stop my #mashion posts and focus on my podcasts….because apparently my podcasts are worth their time ( I agree the shade exists ) but I follow a good handful of bloggers who posts I read consistently, I don’t tend to comment on them but a little share here and there is as far as a reader and fan shows.
    You Vix are on my list and never fail to disappoint. Be honest. Be you! Never stop.
    Fucking bloggers drama. Pfft. Not on Vix’s watch 😂

  12. May 20, 2017 / 3:34 pm

    YES YES YES! I couldn’t agree more!
    I think the blogosphere had changed a little anyway but since Easter’s bot-gate it seems to have gotten a lot worse. Every time I open Twitter these days I’m cringing over some drama that’s kicked off or ranting to my boyfriend that another blogger I thought was great is using shady tactics on Instagram.
    I just want things to go back to how they were – “I wish I could bake a cake out of rainbows and smiles and we’d all eat it and be happy”… but seriously, I do wish we had that super supportive community that was around until a few months ago xo
    LJLV | Luxury meets alternative

  13. Saira
    May 20, 2017 / 5:07 pm

    Vixxxxxx you absolute star you nailed it as always boo. I have become pretty fed up with the blogosphere recently I tend to stay off Twitter just to avoid drama! I realllly hope people take note of this post & we can just go back to how blogging used to be !

    Saira
    Xxx

  14. May 20, 2017 / 5:37 pm

    Great post. Totally agree with everything youve written X

  15. May 20, 2017 / 5:45 pm

    Yes! I’m so glad someone’s written something mature and sensible about this. I tend not to chat too much to lifestyle bloggers because my blog is mostly travel BUT I do follow a few and it makes me really uncomfortable seeing some of the stuff on twitter lately! It actually puts me off wanting to meet more bloggers, which is really sad. I’ve found that the travel blogging community is MUCH more supportive and professional, and it’s a shame some drama queens have to spoil the community for other lifestyle bloggers. Live and let live!

  16. May 20, 2017 / 5:49 pm

    Completely agree with this, there’s been a lot of bitchiness recently and I don’t like it. Grow up, people!

  17. May 20, 2017 / 9:00 pm

    I’m relatively new to the blogging game but couldn’t agree with this post more – especially the one about people being pedantic. Someone uses a term incorrectly and 10 people jump straight on their back for what appears to be an innocent mistake. People have to take a step back and realise there’s SO many bigger problems in the world right now.

    Amy x
    http://www.whatamysays.com

  18. May 20, 2017 / 9:17 pm

    Yes to 100% everything on this list. Blogging is starting to feel like high school!

  19. May 21, 2017 / 8:55 am

    Yaaasssssss! I really need to unfollow some people LOL.

  20. May 21, 2017 / 12:16 pm

    100% agree with this post. I’ve been blogging for nearly 8 years so I’ve seen so many changes throughout the blogosphere growing and evolving but at the moment, I’m just plain fed up with all the cattiness and bitching. I don’t spend as much time on Twitter anymore as it’s such a negative space and everything is one big drama. The community used to be so supportive and friendly, can’t we go back to that?! xo

  21. May 21, 2017 / 4:27 pm

    I love this so much so thank you for writing it. This can be said for any kind of thing on the internet as well, and internet drama is the most pathetic drama there is going because everybody does it hiding behind a keyboard – this is the keyboard warrior generation I’m sad to say as hardly anyone would say some of the stuff they say online in real life or to someones face. I don’t understand why everyone has to have their two cents or why everyone nowadays has to be so sensitive to EVERYTHING. It’s just the internet. I believe in uplifting and empowering people because as a whole we are a community that has the platform to do so much good and some people don’t use that platform to the highest of it’s capabilities when they should!

  22. Jenn
    May 21, 2017 / 5:12 pm

    I used to write blogs from way back in 2009 until mid 2016, and part of the reason why i stopped is because of how horrid the atmosphere was becoming. It seems like great bloggers such as yourself are being targetted a lot at the minute and it’s reminded me why I’ll never go back to my former hobby. Keep writing in your voice, Vix, because quite frankly your posts are some of the best at catching my eye nowadays, and I love your blog for it. X

  23. May 21, 2017 / 7:26 pm

    Yes yes and yes to every single word in this post 👏🏻👏🏻 I tend to stay clear of drama but am so sick of seeing it on my time line – it somehow manages to crop up even if you don’t follow the culprits. I’m all for being real, it’s not all rainbows and sunshines every second of every day, but there’s just no need. Loved this post.

    Kara
    http://www.spreadthesparkle.co.uk
    💗

  24. May 21, 2017 / 8:18 pm

    Best bloody read in ages! Amen sister
    H x

  25. May 21, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    YES YES YES!!!! Completely agree with you on this one! Luckily recently I seem to have missed a lot of the drama but it’s just so draining seeing people ganging together against an individual or group. I know we can’t all get along but seriously, none of the rest of us care about anyone else’s group arguments! And definitely, if you don’t like something someone has said, unfollow/mute/block. It’s so simple. Thank you for this post!

  26. May 22, 2017 / 7:47 am

    I’ve only just started posting about my blog on twitter and literally had no idea about any of this. Will probs just hide over here in my own bubble haha. Great post!

    http://www.earningbythesea.co.uk

  27. May 22, 2017 / 9:19 am

    Totally agree the drama is just getting so boring, but the mute and unfollow buttons are magic. There is so much talent out there I ain’t got time to waste on the negative people who seem to have transformed from bloggers to self proclaimed critics

  28. May 22, 2017 / 11:47 am

    YES YES YESSSS! erlucchhh I hate the bitchiness or bragging.What I want is funny/real/interesting/thoughtful tweets about people’s lives, not open ended cryptic messages about how well they’re doing or how much they dislike someone/something! Alice xxx

    http://www.woodenwindowsills.co.uk

  29. May 23, 2017 / 6:37 pm

    Very well said, the tension is very evident in the blogging community to the readers…at the end of the day we want to read raw, honest and relatable blogpost duscussing real issues at hand..so thank you girl xx
    A Girl’s Journal
    https://girlsjournal95.blogspot.co.uk/

  30. May 27, 2017 / 2:25 am

    The only way you’re going to get anyone to read your opinions is if you’re interesting… I hardly read blogs anymore because being intersting is no longer profitable, advertisers just want fluff.

  31. May 31, 2017 / 6:06 pm

    A very honest blog Viv. As annoying as it is, I understand why people would buy into fake followers or likes, as this whole follow unfollow bs is so f**king boring! and some other bloggers are too scared to like or share a post, because they are worried the other person will get ahead…whatever that is. Well said : ) xoxo

    http://www.juanitalikes.com

  32. June 15, 2017 / 9:04 am

    First post I’ve read from your blog and I can’t agree more with this sentiment! What a great post to start your blog on x

  33. July 31, 2017 / 1:03 pm

    100% all about this post. It’s the same for online communities everywhere, like people just get so argumentative and catty. I get that people like to discuss a difference of opinions, but even if it’s conducted in a mature fashion I still don’t like it, and I’m very quick in using the mute and block buttons. If I don’t want to see someone’s activity, that’s just how it is, we don’t need to start fights, we just need to ignore and get on with our lives. It’s so much simpler than people seem to think. I’ve come here from the blogger ‘calling you out’ on not using ‘inclusive terms’ and I’m sorry that you have to deal with shit like this. It’s your blog. Your space. Write what you want and use the terms you want, it’s your own experience not anybody else’s. The whole thing is absurd! On another note I adore the jacket you’re wearing here! It’s beaut! X

  34. August 6, 2017 / 7:38 pm

    This is sooooo right on the mark!!! Multiple perfect bullseyes!
    I’m so glad Twitter lets me block the legions of obnoxious ignorant hateful trolls.
    I love your outfit photos!
    Your puffy sleeved polka dotted white blouse and black trousers look fabulous styled together.