Our work, our relationships, our feelings and our dress codes. We love to keep it casual don’t we? But is it time to cut all of the bullshit and get serious?
Be prepared for a lot of me looking like a twat that can’t pose in this post.
Keeping things casual has become synonymous with hiding your true feelings nowadays. But why? Do we do it because we really don’t care or do we do it because we care so much that we want to protect ourselves?
A lot of my relationships have been kept casual for many reasons. I have casual friends that are kept that way because whilst I can gossip with them about Game of Thrones or which lipstick I’m wearing lately, I can’t invest in them because they often flake, or don’t treat me the way I deserve. You see, if I keep them at arm’s length then their shitty behaviour can’t hurt me.
But really, do I need to stop acting casual with them and just kick them to the kerb where they belong?
I’ve had casual relationships with men for two main reasons. The first is because, after a tough break up, I just didn’t want to invest and get hurt all over again. The second reason is that I’ve been so busy with life that I didn’t have the time or mental capacity for anything more than dates, the odd text and meaningless bangs.
But really, was I just not meeting the right men? Because I’ve realised lately that when you meet someone that gives you space, supports your busy-ness and isn’t a drain on your brain, then you don’t need to keep it casual to protect yourself or so that you can just focus on you.
And finally a very smooth and not at all forced segue into what this post is really about…
Keeping Our Dress Sense Casual
When Debenhams sent me the email to end all emails to invite me to V Festival with them to experience the VIP life in one of their casual dresses – I couldn’t keep my shit casual. I replied, ‘oh my mofucking god yes’ within about 0.768 seconds.
I chose this red beaut from Red Herring to go with a leather jacket from the collection and this gorgeous bag from their Topshop concession to get down in at V. As you can tell from the pics – I actually felt confident enough to get my pasty pins out (which never happens) AND rock a greasy bun (which always happens).
So take it from me – keep your friendships casual until you can be arsed to bin them. Keep your relationships casual until you find the one who want to lose your shit over and definitely, DEFINITELY keep your festival dress casual when they make you look as good as this one.
Thank you SO MUCH to the Debenhams PR team for the clothes and the experience – you guys totally helped make my summer.
Big thanks to Immy for the pics too!