Pegan. I’m disgusted with myself for saying that word. The word that means Pete and Megan but also means so much more. The utterance of this word means one thing only. I watch TOWIE. Yep it’s out there now. TOWIE. And I’ve loved and watched it for years. As dire as it is, it’s like that lame friend you have nothing in common with but can’t let go.
Anyway back to Pegan. If you’re not aware of the current storyline; Megan has read texts to other women off Pete’s phone. Texts where he’s flirting and telling these women he wishes he was single.
It’s just texts, he states.
It’s never just texts.
It’s a betrayal of trust. It’s sneaky and secretive. It’s looking outside of a committed relationship for attention and an ego stroke. These are far bigger problems than what appears on the face of it.
Having been on the receiving end of the, ‘it’s just texts,’ bullshit line, where the text read, ‘I can’t wait to fuck you again,’ and bruv, I’m not stupid, I can safely say that ‘just texts’ is never just that.
The types of ‘just texts’ you can come across vary. It might be complimenting another person. Somewhat fine. We all think other people are fit. But what’s the motivation there? Are they seeking compliments back or trying to make someone think about them in a romantic way?
It might be a text that bemoans your relationship. You’re the one putting up with his skid marks on the loo or her incessant whinging but they’re telling another person that you’re boring or you always argue. Tell that to my face though, they wouldn’t dare!
In a lot of cases, it’s straight up sexting. There describing all the oral they want to give another person when you’re lucky to receive two pumps and a squirt. In that case – what’s the intention? In my mind, they have either already have sex or they intend to.
These texts don’t mean ‘just texts’. What they mean to say is: it’s just attention seeking, it’s just boredom, it’s just looking for excitement, it’s just flirting or it is actually JUST fucking.
All of these issues are big in relationships and issues of which I personally think anyone shouldn’t ever put up with.
7 billion people on the planet and you’re going to settle for the one who wants textual attention off Becky with the Good Hair?
The counter argument is, that Megan shouldn’t have looked in Pete’s phone. That was the first thing my ex said when I found messages. But something was telling me he was up to no good and I knew the answers lied in his messages. I’ve also been with guys I completely trust and haven’t ever felt the urge to look. A woman’s intuition is TOTALLY a thing.
Always tell yourself, if you’re ever in this awful situation, that it’s not just texts. If they are issues you think you can surmount, then try it chica but NO ONE would judge you for kicking someone’s ass to the kerb over ‘just texts.’
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