I’m dating myself

From today I am dating myself. What does that mean exactly? Well, let’s look at what I’m like when I date someone else. When I’m dating someone, they’re all I think about. I get excited to spend time with them. I think about cute and thoughtful things I can do to make them smile and I just generally want to make them happy all the time.

So now I’m going to do it for myself. I deserve it. I won’t ever ghost on myself. I won’t ever waste my own time by messaging me and never taking me out. I will never cheat on myself. I won’t ever feed myself bullshit about how amazing I am but then never follow through with treating myself properly.

I’m going to date myself for a bit because I’m bored of dating other people. I’m bored of the tedious dating app admin that never results in decent chat or even a date. I’m bored of guys that disappear for no reason. I’m bored of being stood up. I’m bored of the mind games from the people who get under your skin.

So how will I date myself? I’m going to think about what I do when I’m dating someone, like I said above and do that, but for me. Did that even make any sense?

Instead of wasting my energy thinking about someone who doesn’t deserve it. I’m going to use that brain space on me. I’m going to reflect on the year I’ve had. How I’ve grown and what I’ve accomplished.

Instead of thinking of cute things to do for someone else. Imma do them for me. I’m going to treat myself to a pamper day. I’m going to have a movie night for one and I’m going to bloody love my own company.

Dating yourself is a really good way to get yourself centred and get back to putting your own needs first.

After all, if you don’t want to date yourself – why would anyone else?

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  1. Lizi Legge
    October 19, 2016 / 6:50 am

    Yes yes yes to this! Dating yourself is the best idea and why the hell shouldn’t you? Taking time to do what makes you happy is never a bad thing and not something which is done enough as a conscious effort. I’ll be taking a leaf out of your book on this one.

  2. October 19, 2016 / 7:01 am

    This is such a great idea. Treating yourself should be a number 1 priority for all of us!

  3. October 19, 2016 / 7:21 am

    Love, love, love this ❤️ So motivating!

  4. October 19, 2016 / 7:36 am

    Every time I read one of your blogs I just grow more and more intellectually in love with your writing and style. Seious blog goals.
    As for dating yourself I think it’s a great move. You have to love yourself before allowing others to love you the same way.

  5. Carolanne Johnson
    October 19, 2016 / 8:09 am

    YES this is so true. It also helps you to respect yourself more, meaning you won’t take any bullshit from men! I’m married but I LOVE my me-time and I love dating myself 🙂

  6. Shannon
    October 19, 2016 / 9:29 am

    This is so gunna be me ahaha! I’ve given up on guys so many times!


  7. Vanessa
    October 20, 2016 / 2:16 pm

    I’ve been dating myself for the past 10 years and it’s the best decision I ever made.