You can’t…

Don’t let anyone tell you…

You can’t be sexy and intelligent.

You can’t have sex on the first date.

You can’t text someone first.

You can’t let your feelings show too early -‘psycho’.

You can’t tell people what you want – ‘princess’ .

You can’t tell someone they’re hurting you by being a dick – ‘bitch’.

You can’t be assertive – ‘bossy’.

You can’t feel let down when plans are cancelled – ‘needy’.

You can’t take selfies – ‘vain’.

You can’t leave school without going to university.

You can’t not know what you’re doing when you leave university.

You can’t have bad eyebrows.

You can’t look good without a tan.

You can’t be happy single.

You can’t live on your own because you’ll be lonely.

You can’t get through a breakup.

You can’t get over a bereavement.

You can’t be a real woman if you don’t want marriage and children.

You can’t date more than one person.

You can’t find anyone better.

You can’t leave a job to seek a passion.

You can’t travel the world.

You can’t live on beige coloured foods.

You can’t have left over take away for breakfast.

You can’t eat that because you’ll get fat.

You can’t wear that because you’re too fat.

You can’t wear that because it’s too slutty.

You can’t do a job as well as a man.

You can’t mope around for a bit.

You can’t leave your house messy until there’s visitors.

You can’t be too ambitious.

You can’t put your career first.

You can’t put your husband first.

You can’t put your children first.

You can’t put your shoe addiction first.

You can’t do it all.

Fuck that.  You can.

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  1. RebeccaJane
    March 12, 2016 / 3:45 pm

    YES I CAN!! I started reading this, thinking ‘right, there’s a twist coming….. it’s coming all right…. oh no… this is making me question my life… i feel sad now… i shouldn’t do this? for real?’ then it got the end and I was like ‘yay skipping/sunshine/rainbows/unicorns‘ and it was back to Vix!

    Fab post my dear! has me singing ‘Anything you can do, i can do better’ la-dee-dah!

    RebeccaJane xo

  2. Chloe Rhys-Jones
    March 12, 2016 / 6:36 pm

    YES VIX….This is why I love your blog!

    Coco at

  3. March 12, 2016 / 8:02 pm

    Beige coloured foods and leaving the flat messy until you get visitors – yup that’s me!!

  4. Jasmine Eclipse
    March 13, 2016 / 1:24 am

    I needed to read this. Thank you so much for writing this. I’m going to keep this list and reread it when I need reassurance.

    Jasmine /

  5. SparklesofLight Blog
    March 18, 2016 / 8:50 am

    Love your conclusion, there’s so many dumbassed rules it is so liberating to just bugger it all and do your own thing 🙂

    Rosy | <a href=>Sparkles of Light Blog</a>