Why You Need To Love Being Single To Have A Good Relationship

I know this sounds crazy. How can loving being single mean you’re going to have a better relationship? WELL LET ME TELL YA.

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Why You Should Love Yourself

This is just a complete life hack. Knowing your self worth improves all aspects of your life – your career prospect, keeping friendships healthy, sticking to boundaries with families and having fulfilling relationships. It’s also good for your soul. When you love yourself and continually acknowledge your worth, your strong points and your amazing features – your soul feels happier too.

Once you’ve begun to love yourself, you’ll find it easier to love being single.

Why You Should Love Being Single

Being single is fucking amazing. You can do whatever you want whenever you want. You don’t have to compromise elements of yourself to feel accepted by someone. There’s no compromising over where you should eat lunch, whose friends you should see or which Netflix box set you want to watch.

Being single is also great because you have so much more headspace for exploring yourself. It’s the time where you learn to love yourself. You can explore your passions and get creative endeavours off the ground.

Don’t get me wrong – you should be able to do all of these things in amazing relationships too. But I’ll get onto that…

Why You Shouldn’t Give Up Being Single Unless It’s Right

See, told you…

Now, amazing relationships are ones in which you can be 100% as carefree, stress-free, passionate and creative as you are when you’re single. Because really, if there’s one thing we should never compromise in our relationships – it’s ourselves.

But we’ve all had those relationships that are not like that. The relationships where we feel ourselves becoming less because we’re putting some into someone else. We’ve all had relationships where we don’t feel as free to explore our passions and ventures because we want to support someone else. And I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of relationships where we get so wrapped up in the other person, that ourselves get neglected.

We also all hate our mates that used to be the life of soul of every situation who now can’t stop banging on about coupley things and who just don’t seem themselves any more.

So Why Does Loving Being Single Mean You’ll Have A Better Relationship?

It means that you’ll never stay in a relationship because you hate being single. You’ll never feel trapped into something that is less than what you deserve because you’re scared of the alternative.

When you’re not afraid of being single, you can let yourself grow in a relationship much more.

I love being single. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I’ve spoken before about why you shouldn’t settle. This is so true – especially when being single is so great.

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  1. Erin
    August 21, 2017 / 10:54 pm

    For the first time in 26 years this is the first time I have actually enjoyed being single, it’s refreshing. I have found that I worry far less, my anxiety isn’t as bad, I only need to worry about me, and my son. I think it will need to be someone pretty incredible to make me want to give it up this time, but right now I am happy being just me 🙂
    Erin || MakeErinOver

  2. August 22, 2017 / 12:37 pm

    I was properly single for about 2.5 years, and in that time actually had a great time. I made a lot of big decisions for myself, explored the world a bit, gained a bit more experience with sex (and I’m not afraid to admit that as it teaches you a lot about what you like and what you don’t), and although I got fed up dating people and being ghosted, or it just not really ever working out for one way or another, when the right person came along that I was willing to become exclusive with, it meant I actually really wanted to. For a lot of it- I’d say the stress is lessened in a relationship as you have someone to share the life burdens with. I’d like to think I am also as care-free as I was single, and for most things I am. But I guess you also have to make choices together, and sometimes opinions clash and you end up compromising. Alice xxx


  3. August 22, 2017 / 2:23 pm

    Before entering my current relationship I was loving being single, carefree and myself. Now I’m still carefree and myself, I just have someone by myself that is helping me to grow and develop even more as a person.

  4. August 22, 2017 / 9:25 pm

    I totally agree with all that you wrote and support it 100%. People need to love themselves, love being on their own to truly enjoy a relationship. Being with someone just because you don’t want to be alone isn’t the answer. In my opinion, it only makes it worse.
    Finding yourself, knowing who you are and what you are worth is the main thing to find your true love and live a happy and free relationship.
    Great post!

    The Lisa’s World

  5. August 23, 2017 / 12:18 pm

    I couldn’t agree more with this! It’s so important not to lose yourself and your passions when you get into a relationship.

    Being single allows you to be fully yourself and do your own thing – a relationship should be the same but this time you have someone to cuddle haha xxx

  6. Abi
    August 23, 2017 / 4:07 pm

    This is such a great post!! I really need to learn to love myself better! Despite the fact I am in a great relationship where I feel completely free yet supported. I think it is definitely important to be able to appreciate being single before getting into a relationship so you know you feel secure in yourself

    Abi | abistreetx

  7. August 25, 2017 / 4:14 pm

    Totally agree with this. If you know your self worth when you’re single, you’ll know it in a relationship and it means you’ll stick around with the right person and sack off the wrong ones. I know far too many people with an absolute fear of being single – yet funnily enough they don’t fear the outcome of the carcrash relationships they throw themselves into in a bid to not be alone. It saddens me that people seem so set on finding their ‘other half’ like they can’t be whole without a partner.

  8. September 17, 2017 / 3:13 pm

    You gave tremendous positive points there. I did a search on the topic and found most peoples will agree with your blog.

  9. ThisIsWhyUsGoodMenAreSingleToday
    October 27, 2017 / 12:47 am

    Have to really blame the women for that one since it really does take two to tango today. If only most women could just stop sleeping around with so many different men all the time and commit to just ONLY ONE.

  10. Jennifer Davies
    November 1, 2017 / 5:44 pm

    Totally agree with this. I’m currently single and really enjoying spending time to myself, and I really do believe I’ll only give up being single for the right person. Really enjoyed this post!