How Much Time Is Too Little Or Too Long?

Five months it has been.

Five salaries.

Twenty Sunday Roasts.

A series of X Factor.

As long as 7 series of I'm A Celebrity

It's one fifteenth of the Second World War and we all know that harped on far too long.

It's 5 periods where rubs, chocolate and watching Mean Girls on repeat is required.

It's 6,720 viewings of Mean Girls.

It's 647,864 repeats of Gretchen saying, 'Fetch'.

Why am I obsessed with Mean Girls?

It's less than 6 months.

In less than 6 months, we have decided to live together.

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My point is, lots and a little can be achieved in 5 months.

In our 5 months, we've been on 3 trips, met the families, dropped the L-Bomb, confused each other, cared for each other, planned our futures, cooked for each other (badly - I burnt the burger buns), watched an inordinate amount of Netflix and spent a lot of great time together.

But some might think - isn't 5 months just too soon to move in together?

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I know it's no-one's business but people could be concerned for others when they don't want them to be foolish but cautious instead. Especially when that someone has been hurt before.

But here is the crux.

I've waited 5 years to move in with someone to find they were going to get an Arsenal tattoo across their back and believed in Most Haunted before I could get out.

I've waited 2 years to move in with someone who cheated on me twice and broke down who I was as a person.

So is time really the issue? Without sounding too much like Carrie Bradshaw reading aloud her wanky thoughts - Is too much time or too little really the issue when moving relationships on?

For me, I have nothing to lose. Do I see myself driving Ben crazy for the next 50 plus years by being forever on Twitter or forever obsessed with Pinterest? Yes. But if things were to go monumentally tits up in 5 months, 5 years or 50, I have a great perspective.

You see, I've experienced the worse loss and heartbreak any person can be expected to experience. And both times I've come out stronger, happier and loving myself just that bit more. So if time really was to be an issue, and we really have been fools that have rushed in - i'll come away stronger, happier and more loving of myself.

So isn't it worth the risk, this time?

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The campaign runs until the end of December and allows you to pick two gifts, like we have here and get 10% off. What's more is - I have my own nifty little code, 'VIXMELDREW' which gets you an EXTRA 15% OFF!

Ben was so chuffed with his Melrose style that I've got myself out of having to get him loads of extra pressies which means EXTRA ASOS SPLURGES FOR ME.

Just don't tell him.

Although he'll be reading this.

HAPPY 5 MONTHS WITH ME.

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24 Comments

  1. December 13, 2017 / 8:05 am

    Honestly I’m just so happy for you two! Who cares how long it’s been, I mean if you know, you know right?!

    Sarah | sazbomb.co.uk
    Xxxx

  2. December 13, 2017 / 9:41 am

    I’m a big believer in ‘when you know, you know. I moved in with my boyfriend after six months. We’ve been together seven years, have lived in five homes and have a son. Be happy 🙂

  3. December 13, 2017 / 10:11 am

    Love is always worth the risk! We moved in together after 10 months and at the time it was seen as ‘too soon’ by everyone but 23 years and 4 children later, here we are! Ha! So hurray for love I say and congratulations on moving in together x

  4. Aisling
    December 13, 2017 / 10:52 am

    My gf and I started living together basically immediately. When we met I was living in a studio flat, but was moving somewhere bigger in 2 weeks. She was living with her parents after giving up her flat to travel in Asia for a few months. She helped me pack up the old flat and move to the new one even though we’d only been official for about a week and… then she basically never left. I think it’s also just PRACTICAL to live together sooner if you plan on that being the end result anyway! Why should we be paying separate rents only to spend half our time in each place? So many people live with roommates they barely know. This economy!

    Also, in lesbian culture, it’s actually A Thing for couples to hook up, go through all the early relationship stuff really fast, and be practically married within the first year. We were living together after a few weeks, OFFICIALLY living together after 4 months and got a puppy together at 7 months. So I think A LOT of the whole Waiting Until The Right Time thing comes from old-fashioned ideas of heterosexual women remaining chaste until marriage and basically being passed from the family home to the marital home.

  5. December 13, 2017 / 10:52 am

    Absolutely loved this, Vix! It’s such an interesting insight and so well written as always. Very happy for you as well, all the best for your new adventure! XO

  6. December 13, 2017 / 10:54 am

    I moved in with my boyfriend after 9 months. We’ve been together for 12 now and married for 4. Congratulations to the pair of you – wishing you a lifetime of love, laughter and leg-overs x

  7. December 13, 2017 / 11:01 am

    This post is adorable! I loved how you worded it and how easily you incorporated the watches/the sponsored content. I don’t think there’s ever a right time for these things – to move in together, to get married, to have children. You just go with your gut feeling. I think this is also dependent on age and experience: You now have all these experiences you mentioned under your belt, so it’s easier to trust your gut feeling, because it’s developed, if that makes sense. I’m rambling on – I’m just really happy for you and wish you both all the love and happiness you deserve xxx

  8. December 13, 2017 / 11:33 am

    My husband and I have been together for nearly 8 years now. We moved in after about 2 years – we waited because we felt like we were supposed to wait, but both of us felt ready earlier. In retrospect I just wish we had done! x

  9. December 13, 2017 / 3:12 pm

    Vix, I bloody loved this! My boyfriend and I moved in together on our 6 month anniversary and it’s hands down the best thing we’ve both ever done. If you feel like you know someone, and love them more than anything then the only thing that matters is what you both want – screw anyone else’s opinion! I wish you both SO much happiness, because Christ knows you bloody deserve it! xx
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  10. December 13, 2017 / 9:14 pm

    Every situation is unique and no one is entitled to an opinion but you. My partner and I moved in together after two months.

    Steph x

    http://www.wanderlustpulse.com

  11. December 13, 2017 / 9:28 pm

    Absolutely loved this so much Vix, me and my fiancé moved in after 7 months and everyone thought we were absolutely crazy but sometimes you just know. So happy for you, wishing you so much love. Xx

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  12. December 13, 2017 / 10:18 pm

    I love Daniel Wellington, their watches are just to die for!
    I think that everything should be done when it feels right, there should never be a time scale to anything!

    Danielle xx
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  13. December 14, 2017 / 9:37 am

    When my partner and I had been together 5 months a lot of people thought it was weird we hadn’t moved in together. The culture of your local area will affect how people react. I live in Aberdeen and people are quite happy to go full steam ahead with their relationships. And you never truly know someone until you live with them.
    Best of luck building your home together. I wish you both lots of happiness.
    Laura
    xoxo
    http://thatgallowaygirl.com/

  14. Abi Street
    December 14, 2017 / 10:33 am

    I literally love everything you write! Also laughed out loud at the Carrie Bradshaw comment. You should definitely follow your gut with this, if the time is right the time is right. As long as you’re both happy that is all that matters.

    Abi | abistreetx

  15. Charlotte
    December 14, 2017 / 1:51 pm

    I’ve been with my husband almost 4 years now, married for 16-ish months, and we moved in together after 3 months. Maybe it was “too fast” but I wouldn’t change a second of it. Good luck to you both x

  16. December 15, 2017 / 7:15 pm

    You’re so right, if you were 18, moving in after 5 months might be a bit too short but it’s all perspective and whatever feels right for you! Alice xxx

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  17. December 15, 2017 / 10:09 pm

    Nah. I moved in with my boyfriend after 5months of long distance and we got married on our 3 year anniversary ?? when you’ve waited in another relationship it makes you realise that life is too short to be sensible sometimes.

  18. December 18, 2017 / 9:10 am

    This was beautifully written! I’m so happy for you, and I wish you all the best in your future together. I’m loving the watches, too!

  19. December 18, 2017 / 9:54 pm

    As ever, loved this! I am all for jumping straight in. I met my now husband in the December, went on a two year back packing trip, living in a car and hostels, with him just 8 weeks later. We are still together, 26 years later. Life is short, if it feels right, move your lovely man in xx

  20. December 21, 2017 / 7:39 pm

    I’m buzzing for you mate. You do what you want, when you want. You’re happy and that is 100% the main thing!

  21. January 3, 2018 / 10:29 am

    Josh moved in with my after 4 months – we just knew. People thought we were a bit mad at the time but it didn’t feel odd, and now we’re married! Good luck with it all Vix, you deserve it. xx

  22. January 6, 2018 / 8:07 am

    Me and my partner moved in after 3 months, technically 6 months but I wasn’t interested in him for the first three so I don’t think that really counts. ANYWAY, Even though its defiantly NOT been smooth sailing, we have lived in three different houses, been to 3 different countries and we are now having a baby together. All in three and a half years. When we broke up for a while everyone said it was because we moved in together too fast. BULLSHIT. It had nothing to do with it. I moved in with an EX after two years and moved out again (and broke up) in just two months of living together. It was a learning curve. JUST GO FOR IT! If it feels right then it usually is, even if it all goes tits up, it usually was meant to happen anyway.

    Love this post Vix, your posts are always funny, honest and heart warming.

    Much Love
    Holly
    x

  23. January 6, 2018 / 1:13 pm

    I love this post! As someone who’s usually too cautious to jump up relationships – I’ve been burnt to many times before – I love this. Sometimes you’ve got to throw caution to the wind and just go for it! Time is relative and shouldn’t be the thing you live your life by. Good luck with the move and have fun creating many more happy memories in your new home together!x
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