I know I’ve been promising this post for ages, and I haven’t gotten round to putting it together but I brought you along on every minutiae of every date I ever went on, so it’s only right that I sit here and bore you with every detail about my upcoming wedding, YAY!
So if you want to know the juicy deets on food, venue, dress and pretend you’re right there with me like an over-bearing bridesmaid at Kleinfeld’s then COME ON IN…
Originally the plan was to have the ceremony at a gorgeous private school hall, near Ben’s family home and then head to his rent’s house for the party. That fell through however as the school will be undergoing renovations so instead we’re having a small, marquee style garden party!
And I am actually delighted with that. It means we can have the whole day in the one space and not have everyone trekking all over the shop for us.
We were also going to borrow the village marquees that are used for summer fetes and such but after discussions with our caterer and wedding planner (sounds so boujie but I’ll divulge further in a sec), they suggested we hired other marquees – which we’ve done.
Ben’s Mum is a wonderful florist and she has worked closely with a team at the weddings she has done in the past.
We met with them in January, they’re a team of caterers and an event manager – which is actually super helpful that they will be able to co-ordinate everything on the day whilst I focus on my 2000s Kisstory playlist.
In January, we decided on the menu and it quickly went from me saying, ‘let’s just have two courses and guests can get breakfast before they come’ to feeding them consistently from the moment they arrive.
Our ‘wedding breakfast’ is going to be ‘family style’ which is lots of sharing and getting to know each other! Whilst I get anxious AF whenever it comes to sharing food, I realise most people can be normal and not count how many slices of chorizo everyone is fairly entitled to, so it should be lovely.
Tomorrow we are actually going to go and taste all of the food, which I’m very excited about. I specifically asked for lots of different potatoes. Obvs.
This has probably been my biggest struggle so far and not something I’ve spoken too much about.
As you know, I lost both my parents in the last couple of years. And beyond that I have a very fractured family. There’s loads of them but no one I am close to.
There are a few relatives I thought I was close with, but they have been particularly difficult about the wedding and I have made the decision to uninvite them.
I decided I only wanted people there who play an active role in my life and who are being supportive and kind. Which unfortunately means that out of around 70 guests, less than 20 are from ‘my side’.
It makes me quite sad sometimes that I have such a small circle of people, ‘there for me’ on the day but equally, Ben’s family and friends are so brilliant and welcoming that I really don’t feel like it’ll be a ‘them and us’ situation. Furthermore, the friends and family I have that ARE coming have been absolutely brilliant.
The Other Bits
This is the part where I feel like I’m reaaaally boring people. Early on we booked a videographer, photographer and the band. Which are the band we saw on our second date!
There’s not much else to say really!
I’ve got an idea of how I want to decorate things and Ben’s Mum is excellent with flowers. So that’s sorted?? I suppose? I imagine I’ll get more into the swing of my Wedding Decor Pinterest board the closer we get.
I’m being the opposite of a Bridezilla and don’t *really* care *yet* about the finer details but check back in, the month before, and I’ll probably be having a melt down over the napkin colour shades.
The Surprise Guests
Both Ben and I decided on a ‘theme’ for the day early on and then went into a whirlwind of silly plan ideas to make the day the biggest giggle ever.
That has apparently turned into solid, concrete plans of each of us hiring a ‘surprise guest’ for the other, in line with our theme. I’m not sure we’ll be able to pull it off, but if we do, I’ll be able to share it all!
The Big Bit – The Dress
I mean, the big bit is actually getting married but I know this is the bit that most people are excited about!
I have bought 5 dresses so far. LOOOOOOOOOL.
The first 4 were ASOS sale buys of all around £22 in value. One I kept as a back up and the rest I sent back.
I then bought another from ASOS that I need to send back because I hate it.
My sister has come along with me to Wed2Be and David’s Bridal and I hated every moment.
I actually cannot bear wedding dress shopping. I hate feeling on show. I don’t feel particularly, ‘me’ in wedding dresses. So it’s not a part that I have been excited about or enjoyed so far.
I then started browsing The Outnet and Need & Thread, falling in love with kind of ‘alternative’ gowns. I’m not massively, ‘girly’ and the whole ‘white bride’ thing is NOT ME AT ALLLL.
Then Ben’s Mum introduced me to her friend who is a dress maker, and as it stands – I’m having a dress made! I’m having my first, ‘try on’ tomorrow to see if the shape I’ve suggested is actually what I want and then the next stage is to choose the materials.
Laura and I popped into a fabric shop this week and I felt SO emotional and happy that I could have something that made me feel comfortable, confident and ‘bridal’ but in my own style. So I suppose, watch this space!
Let me know in the comments if there are any other planning details you’d like me to discuss! I’m probably the worst person to write about weddings as I am SO laid back about my own – but I’ll see what I can do!
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