What Is The Ick And What Do You Do When You Have It?

The Ick. That insidious gut feeling that creeps in whilst dating someone that once festered means you cannot tolerate that person any more.

Vix The Ick

I’ve had The Ick on many occasions.

Once after a guy I had been seeing for 10 dates started talking in a baby voice. Instant ick.

I was on a date with a boy who flirted with a waitress. Ick.

Mid hook up and the guy decides to tell me why he can’t be a feminist because he believes in equality and that the movement undermines that. Vagina-clamming-up-ick.

The guy I was seeing who had odd mannerisms. Chandler Bing petty-ick.

But once The Ick has settled, it’s hard to get rid of.

So how do you know if you’ve got The Ick?

  • You can’t find them funny any more.
  • The thought of kissing them or having sex with them turns your stomach.
  • Every little thing about them annoys you.
  • Your eye starts to wander.
  • You avoid seeing them.
  • You start counting down the minutes until you can end it with them.

Sometimes The Ick comes out of nowhere. They might not have done anything wrong or out of order but it still hits you and the above symptoms are present.

What Do You Do Once You Have The Ick?

You get the fuck out. The Ick cannot be recovered. You cannot unick yourself in these situations.

You can try and convince yourself that you’re being picky, or you’re hormonal but the fact of the matter is that once the Ick has set in, there’s no getting rid.

How do you avoid the Ick?

You can’t. No one you date wears a sign around their neck that says, ‘Eventually you’ll want to vomit at the thought of me.’ Even dating people you fancy the fuck out of to begin with can sometimes turn Ick-a-licious so you just have to roll with it.

Can the Ick ever be a good thing?

A million percent yes. That guy you were with for 3 years but who left you because he just couldn’t commit? Or that person who cheated on you after 5 years? Getting the Ick about them saves any, ‘maybe we could try again?’ headfucks. This is a good Ick. The Ick that makes you so disgusted you ever went there in the first place. The Closure Ick.

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  1. Linda | Threaded Roads
    August 23, 2017 / 7:28 am

    Omg! I loved this post! I’m literally rolling on the floor laughing ? The ick is real!!

  2. August 23, 2017 / 10:19 am

    I couldn’t agree with this more – The Ick (or intuition) should never be ignored!

  3. August 23, 2017 / 11:05 am

    I literally thought it was just me that got this – It’s happened to a fair few people I’ve dated and I’m so glad it’s not just me haha. It’s definitely best to get the hell out because in my experience also, there’s no going back. Love this post!

    Hollie | ItsHollieAnn.com

  4. August 23, 2017 / 12:59 pm

    I totally think this happens in friendships too. You meet someone, get along great, then they just start doing something that DRIVES YOU CRAZY. no thank you. Ick.

    Amy x

  5. Immy May
    August 23, 2017 / 12:04 pm

    Oh loool I have had SO much ick in the past. The biggest ick was a boy who send a daily (v posed) selfies to me, asking for one in return. So. Much. Ick. Immy x


  6. August 23, 2017 / 5:43 pm

    Hahaaaa oh my god I’ve experienced this multiple times in the past. I got The Ick so bad with the person I was seeing before my current boyfriend, I actually felt sick when I thought about kissing him. Felt a bit guilty at the same time because he was such a nice person! But also, ick.

    Sophie | Sophar So Good

  7. August 24, 2017 / 1:29 pm

    Closure Ick is the best. Nothing worse than vivid dream where you have got back with your ex who gives you the worse Ick. That feeling when you wake up and realise it was just a dream is the best.

    I love this post, I thought it was only me that got this until love island!

  8. laura
    August 24, 2017 / 9:01 pm

    Loved this post, made me LOL quite a bit! I definitely remember the Ick!!

  9. Jess Athorn
    August 25, 2017 / 4:21 pm

    I get this more in friendships than dating but totally agree!

  10. Rebecca Claire
    August 26, 2017 / 6:25 pm

    I’ve totally had the ick about several guys in the past and thought it was something I could just work through and things would go back to normal but you’re right, it never goes!

    Rebecca (Twitter: @chewbeccaclaire)

  11. Kendel @ Little Misadventures
    September 1, 2017 / 12:36 am

    The ick is so, so real! Hahaha. I can’t stand the constant text messaging, especially with cutesy emojis and the lot. No, no, no. Be a man, please haha.